If that statement seems mean and aggressive: hang with me a second! I promise it's not. It's the opposite.
If you're even interested in reading this blog after reading the title, you are my people! The reason why I'm even writing on this subject is because I am going. through. it. I kept telling myself I was in a dry spell in my business and that resulted in me feeling very sorry for myself. Many days in a row. I got some coaching on this thought and was asked a great question which lead me back to one of the best emails I've ever gotten. The email was from Stacey Boehman and it was a virtual kick in the ass. So much so that I copied it into a Google Doc. I went back today and re-read it and answered the questions she posed. In my re-reading, I rediscovered a quote that she included that lit a fire in me when I read it the first time and then again today. So much so that I posted today on my Instagram because that shit is profound:
When you are the problem, you always have the solution.
Um, hi yes hello. One more time:
When you are the problem, you always have the solution. YES. It's ALWAYS true. We are always the problem. It's the best news. Why?
You stop blaming. You stop playing the victim. You stop rolling around in self-pity, feeling sorry for yourself. Once you know this fact to be true, and believe it, you take ALL of your power back. You shift into responsibility, ownership, and authority over your own life. And that feels incredible. It feels powerful and it leads you to making decisions and taking action.
To uncover this for yourself, answer the following questions:
- Who or what is causing my negative feeling/result?
- How is this making me feel?
- What is the thought I'm thinking that is actually causing me to feel this way?
Now, fill in the blank:
(an action I'm taking/a lack of action/a thought I'm having) is actually what is creating (my unwanted result).
(these actions that I can take/new thought) is the solution to solving for my unwanted result.
I will do (actions) moving forward to help me create my wanted result.
You've got this. Remember, your thoughts create your feelings, your feelings drive your actions, and your actions crate your results. Every. Time. Circumstances and other people don't create your feelings. You are always the problem and you're always the solution.
If you're ready to change your brain, book a consultation! It's 45 minutes of talking about where you are now, and the life you want to create in your future. Let's go my friends! It's the best decision you could make.